The Most Terrifying Decision You Will Ever Make
"It's just a decision."
I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. Here I am, 25 years old, sitting in my parent’s living room with tears streaming down my face as I’m torn between following my heart or following the path society says I have to follow.
Here’s the thing; society tells us that in order to be successful we need a corporate job with a comfy salary, work 40+ hours a week, get married, buy a house, settle down, have kids, pay bills, vacation for one week a year, retire and THEN, live the life you’ve always wanted when your body is restricted by aches and pains. That’s it. That’s life. And that is the only path you can follow.
From an outsider’s perspective, I was doing everything right. Cool, corporate job, traveling frequently, and having a disposable income. What more could you want? I was living life according to society’s ideals, on the path that so many follow and probably dream about, (I know I did). But at the end of the day, I wasn’t happy and I was torn by the thought of leaving opportunities behind, letting others down, and failing… I was afraid of making the wrong decision.
Until the moment my dad spoke these words to me, “There is no right or wrong decision, it's just a decision."
It took a moment for me to comprehend this statement. This was a situation I had stressed about for months, to the point of becoming physically ill, which then forced me to listen. But all along it was just a decision?
What I’ve found is that we tend to focus on the negative aspects of a choice instead of focusing on the good aspects. I was afraid of all of the things that could go wrong, but never thought about what could go right. What positives will come out of that decision you’ve been contemplating over?
Within the following days I left my job in pursuit to travel the world – the one thing my heart has longed to do my entire life. I can now say, with confidence, that following your heart is the most terrifying decision you will ever make. But it is also the most fulfilling and freeing.
Now, I’m not telling you to quit your job, or do something drastic, but I do urge you to live a life of courage. To follow the dream you have always wanted, big or small, to take a chance and live by faith.
Through this process, my faith has grown immensely. The Lord has shown me that my purpose is not only bigger than any cubicle wall, but my security should never be in a job title, or salary. It should be in the foundation that will never crumble and never leave me, especially as I travel the world.
"Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” – Joshua 1:9
This is my journey. What’s yours?
3 things I’ve learned so far:
- Whatever the decision is, it has to be your own. Do not seek approval from others because you won’t get the answer you’re looking for.
- It’s okay to break the rules and forge your own path no matter what society says.
- People will probably think you’re crazy, but they definitely won’t think you’re boring. And it’s boredom that’s deadly.